by David Brenneman
"Faithful are the wounds of a friend." Proverbs 27:6a.
One of two things is true about the person who has never received guidance from another person: either that person is perfect and has never needed guiding or correcting, or that person doesn't have anyone in his or her life willing to risk the possibility of a negative response from the "correctee." Since we know there are no perfect people, guess which one is true?
The book of Proverbs says, in more than one way, that we are
fortunate if we have a friend who loves us enough to guide and correct us. No one would allow another person to unknowingly make a serious mistake, like taking the wrong turn on a long car trip.
Yet how often do we fail to give guidance to others when they are
threatening to derail their own spiritual journeys? When we need
guidance, we should ask someone who has been where we are or
has a deeper knowledge of God and His Word. We should receive it gently, humbly, and with love. Guidance especially unsolicited
guidance should be given with the same characteristics
Do you need guidance or know someone who does? God gives "parts" to the body of Christ so the whole may be healthy. Don't fail to do your part when it comes to guidance-whether giving or receiving.
- Walking with God, Dr. David Jeremiah.
We often are in need of help...but can be too stubborn to ask or honestly too stupid to listen. Dr. Jeremiah is spot on with this devotional.
In my life there's been several whom actually tried to get to know me who were this close as friends. Of late that isn't as deep a pool as it once was. The irony is those whom still do know me well live a great distance away. Some who did, it appears, that God's moved on from my life either for my good or for theirs.
But my Dear Reader we do need to hear from Godly people. Be it Godly men teaching, mentoring, men or Godly women teaching, mentoring, only women for Scripture is clear that women aren't to be teaching men.
We need our circles. Jesus's pattern was Peter, James and John, then the next was the whole 12, then those outside of these.
We are here, after all to grow in Christ until our time on Earth is through. We are here, the midst of this, to help others grow in Christ as well. As some have taken to saying it: disciples making disciples.
We are to put what the Spirit is teaching us as our highest priority.
These of whom I speak are both knowledgeable enough about me to be completely honest and truthful but they also do it in love.
Many whom I know are somewhat close but not near as close as those whom I refer to who are far away.
One of the worst examples that had happened in my life decades ago was people willing to literally judge my life's journey and start on me about how this and that needs to change without ever truly knowing me.
To be truthful with you, I sorely miss the close company of several men who used to be involved in my life. Without going into details the separation just is honestly painful. Time passed can be as bad or worse than distance without communicating. A few have an excellent excuse...the Lord took them home to be with Him.
My Dear Reader find the Godly men for men, women for women, that He has placed in your life to help you to grow in Christ.
Scripture says "For I was very glad when brethren came and testified to your truth, that is, how you are walking in truth. I have no greater joy than this, to hear of my children walking in the truth." 3 John 1:3-4.
We provide great joy to Jesus when we are walking in His truth.
"A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:34-35.
Love one another enough to help one another grow in Christ.
Be in each other's lives as Christ would be. My long distance brothers in Christ are often communicating more than those nearby but that's ok.
My Savior says that He will never leave me nor forsake me, and the same goes for you if you're among the saved in Christ Jesus.
Longing for what used to be takes your eyes off of what the Spirit is doing right now in our lives.
Paul refers to this as a correct attitude in Christ: "Brethren, I do not regard myself as having laid hold of it yet; but one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus." Philippians 3:13-14.
Spend your time with Jesus if there's no one close enough to share your life with. I miss nothing by taking more time in my evenings studying God's Word. I miss nothing by getting up early to read His Word and to write these posts.
While I still miss the kind of companionship I used to have, I will rejoice in the Lord that I have Jesus...as should you.
We are still here to grow in Christ and to point people to Jesus for salvation. "Come and see!" should be interwoven into our lives in Christ.
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart And do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight." Proverbs 3:5-6.
"A friend loves at all times, And a brother is born for adversity." Proverbs 17:17.
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